There are times when fear is good. It must keep its watchful place at the heart’s controls. — Aeschylus

“I’m scared!”

“What’s wrong?”

My friend Lori giggled on the other line in that what-this-time kind of way.

“There’s a possum outside my door and he’s staring at me!”

“What?”

“Here, I’ll FaceTime you and show you.”

“Wow, he does look kind of scary,” she admitted, “like the guy from Beetle Juice.”

“Exactly.” I agreed, having no recollection of what she meant.

Her boyfriend got on the phone and said, “It’s a baby. He’s probably scared.”

“I’m scared!!!”

“Just give him…


Write hard and clear about what hurts. — Ernest Hemingway

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While struggling with my own writer’s block, I reached out to my followers asking what I should write. Though I did end up writing something else, everyone wanted me to write about writer’s block. This was my favorite suggestion: to make a list of helpful ways I fight it. Since I feel stuck a lot, here are some simple ways I try to fight my resistance to just sitting down and doing it.

I hope it helps.

1. Stop trying to write:

Some people think you should fight through it…


The universe is not outside of you. Look inside yourself; everything that you want, you already are. — Rumi

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Why is it that I can tell by the first three notes if I’m going to love a song, from the first sentence if I am going to like a book, and from the first kiss if a guy is going to ruin my life?

Maybe everything we need to know is already inside of us? All of the wisdom just waiting for us to discover it.

Yet we go searching for answers constantly from the outside world: from Google to…


“There’s no such thing as chance, it’s all preordained. Like, Kismet.” — Marilyn Monroe

One time I went to an audition in LA and the only description of the character was, ‘Medium’ not as in psychic medium, but medium as in body-type medium.

There were only two people at the audition: me and a young woman with pretty red hair who introduced herself as Veronica.

We laughed and laughed realizing “We are the only two women in LA who dare to identify ourselves as medium!”

The funniest thing is I don’t think either of us got the part, even though…


The mantra that you’re given in Transcendental Meditation you keep to yourself. The reason being, true happiness is not out there, true happiness lies within. — David Lynch

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Just so you know, I started meditating.

I know, I’m already so annoying.

Today I meditated so hard, I fell fast asleep at the end. (That’s how good I’m getting at meditating).

I’m meditating so well that I’ve made sure to let every person I encounter know that I started meditating.

I didn’t just start meditating, honestly.

I had many false starts.

People kept telling me to meditate, which of course made…


“The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.” — Oprah Winfrey

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My Birthday is Monday, and no, I’m not alerting the masses (the 20 people who read my blog) to solicit your Birthday greetings. I tend to dread Birthdays.

Naturally, a Birthday forces you to evaluate where you are in your life, what you’ve accomplished since last year, and a million other little things, which usually send me into the depths of self-pitying despair.

But not this year.

Instead, I’ve made up my mind to celebrate all I’ve overcome this year.

It…


You tell me, mistakes
Are part of being young
But that don’t right
The wrong that’s been done — Brenda Lee

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I’ve noticed a new trend where people are apologizing for things before anyone cares about what they’re apologizing for.

So, just in case I ever make it, I thought I better get a head start.

Not for tweets, since I can’t think of any offensive ones, and am too lazy to check.

But there are things I did in my past I still feel guilty about.

I’d like to apologize for as many as I can think of as…


“We walk through this world feeling unseen, unheard, unloved. And part of that is because we are not seeing and hearing and loving others. We’re so busy fighting to be seen that we’re forgetting that we are others. And we need to do our part to see people and to acknowledge them instead of fighting to be seen ourselves.” — Derek DelGaudio

I watched a wonderful thing on Hulu the other day by Derek DelGaudio called, ‘In & Of Itself,’ which described what it was perfectly. It simply was itself.

It wasn’t a tangible performance- genre. I can’t say it…


This Is Us

How an encounter with a deer brought me a moment of peace

A deer standing in a field of dry grass.
A deer standing in a field of dry grass.
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Whoever you are, no matter how lonely, the world offers itself to your imagination, calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting—over and over announcing your place in the family of things.
— Mary Oliver

I love when it rains in L.A.

It washes away the smog, and the air smells fresh and clean again.

Everyone stays inside, so there’s a calm that settles over the city, like time has stopped for a moment and you can finally breathe.

I went on a hike just as the rain had dissipated. Bundling up in a hoodie, jacket, scarf, and…


I was hitchhiking the other day and a hearse stopped. I said, ‘No thanks, I’m not going that far.’ -Steven Wright

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Sometimes I wonder if we should have a fake death day on social media in addition to a birthday, so we know how people loved us before we actually die.

Whenever someone we love dies, we dig up our photos with them, pronounce how we truly feel, wax on about what incredible people they were.

What prevents us from doing that while they’re still here?

“Hey Erica, how are you?” was the last message my friend, Erik Myers wrote…

Erica Rhodes

Comedian of all trades.

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